Why do we expect? Expect people to be nice with us, expect them to love us and make us feel special. Maybe because we treat them that ways. And as a human being that is pretty obvious that we expect to get what we give to others. And when something like this doesnot happen it breaks our heart.
We love someone assuming it to be unconditional and rational but both the terms cannot actually go together. Conditions are rational and Unconditional love is irrational. But talking about it we preassume that it is unconditional and no matter what you will love them even if you are not loved that much. This is not a one-sided love. We are talking about relationships. Any kind of relationship. We think its unconditional but as the time goes conditions and expectations start coming in between. Maybe you are quiet and ignorant about your feelings and think about just letting it go but somewhere inside your head this thought of not getting the affection you need from then starts bothering you but your ignorant attitude makes you the same person you never wanted to be and never promised to be. you stop showing your feelings. Feeling of love , feeling of joy and excitement and feeling of pain. You stop showing the love you always promised to give them without asking anything in return. It seems very easy to make things work out but actually they just keep on creating little muddles in your life that you want to throw away but you can’t. This continuous thought keeps on piling up and results in frustrations and rapid anger. You do not know how to make things right and how to show your feelings and tell them what all is happening where they are busy in their own world. Though you know they love you too but sometimes you need what you gave in return and you expect and follows you to dissatisfaction.
And talking about expectations and understanding and love in a relationship, it is not so easy to get all. Sometimes you just get it and sometimes you need to talk and tell what you feel. If you need a rational relationship where both are equal on every step then feelings should never be ignored. You yourself are the reason of your frustration. Just let it all go. And feel and listen to what your heart and brain says. Dont ignore any.
All the Best Lovelies. :*
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Every relationship has fights. We fight. We make up and start loving in the same way we used to. This goes on again and again and again.
And then there is this point where those fights are too much to handle and you can’t take any of it anymore. All you want is peace. with or without the person you love. Suddenly you don’t see the future without the person but just want to get rid of them. Such disturbing fights which actually doesn’t have a meaning in real. You think of killing the person or you kill yourself. There is this asphyxiate in your body which is really really frustrating and you can’t do anything with that.
Texting it’s all over doesnot really works, I am not saying it should but lets face it you are not serious about it and he/she knows it. they know you can’t do it and neither can they. So it keeps on going on and on. The arguments keep on hitting your brain and then your brain starts shouting like “what the fuck is happening?” and you are like “hey brainy, you wait and watch.” Every single argument is as stupid as spongebob talking under the water and breathe. But still it keeps on going. and rather than actually clearing out things you both just give up. Like you don’t have the energy to explain and think and work out things well. And poof! I love you! Just like the opening scene of PS I lOVE YOU.. fighting and suddenly the urge to kiss and make love and say sorry without talking about it. It happens only behind the screen. In real you just get tired of shouting and abusing and so now you need a hug and love to make yourself calm or just stay away.
Of Course you love him/her and they do too but we have to work out things and stop this to happen again and again. but no. leave it for the next time. This is what happens. You see talking about things n is really important just like a kiss is really important when you say goodbye. You have to sit and talk and when you can’t you have to think individually and relax your minds and work out on things. [in case of long distance.]
People don’t realise what they have. And this is the problem, they don’t want to see what will happen or how much they will miss these fights too when they’ll no longer be together (ego clashes). Its good to fight over things but never let that spoil your relationship because you have done very good deeds that you have people to cry and laugh with. [I am not saying single people are not happy. Trust me you guys are really happy]. So destroying your feelings and just cut the topic does not work. Talking is really important.
Hope this helps people who can relate to it. KEEP LOVING! 🙂